Becoming Her: It’s Not About Changing, It’s About Returning

Becoming her doesn’t feel like transformation.It feels like remembrance.

Not a sharpening.Not a fixing.Not a reinvention.

But a return.

A return to the way your body knows how to breathe when it’s not busy proving something.A return to the voice you had before the world asked you to quiet it.A return to the still, sacred pulse of the woman you’ve always been underneath it all.

For me, becoming hasn’t been a straight line.It hasn’t been a sudden shift.It’s been… a wave.

Crashing, powerful, wild.Unsteady, even.But also — still.Soft.Holy.

There is always that moment just after the crash —when everything settles.And in that pause, I find myself.

“She feels like a wave crashing onto shore.Stunning.Untamed.But still somehow at peace.”

I used to think becoming meant building something brand new —that I had to chisel away at the parts of me that weren’t “good enough” and create someone different.

But I’ve learned, through whispered conversations on quiet nights,that becoming isn’t about adding more.It’s about coming home to what’s already within.

Night after night, once the house goes quiet and the kids are tucked in, Jason and I sit under the stars.No phones.No distractions.Just us — soul to soul.

And in those quiet hours, I hear myself again.

It’s in those moments he reminds me:You’re not building something new.You’re returning to who God designed you to be.

Not a performance.Not a mask.Not a hustle.

But a divine blueprint.Already drawn.Already waiting.

Becoming HER isn’t about changing.It’s about remembering.About aligning.About trusting what has been there all along.

To the woman who feels like she’s behind…To the one who’s exhausted from trying to be better…Let me tell you:

You’re not becoming something foreign.You’re becoming familiar again.

This journey?It isn’t about doing more.It’s about doing less of what takes you away from yourself.

Let go of the pressure to evolve into something unrecognizable.You’re not here to be a version that impresses.You’re here to be true.

And when you align with what’s already been written for you?There’s no confusion.No forcing.No shame.

Just the steady rise of a woman walking back into her design.

So let it be a return.A holy unfolding.An exhale that says:

“I don’t have to create HER.I already am her.”